Can people change?

It's really just as useless a question as "what is our purpose in life"? There's really no way of knowing for sure and yet we're forced to make a decision in order to go on with life. Everyone at some point has to make a decision about a person's ability to change. But even when you finally do come to your decision, the examples of persons you used for the basis of your decision may not be the best examples. The evidence could be flawed. People who you thought changed perhaps are only acting or are only temporarily swayed. People who don't seem to be able to change may not have arrived at a motivation to change. So, really, our answer to the question doesn't matter. It only matters that you have an answer.

I'm sure my ideas about this will change, be tweaked and completely evolve with time. For now, though, I've made my decision. Some people can change. Others can't.

Of course, no one can have it all. People who are capable of changing themselves, who have maliable dispositions or ways of thinking are capable of becoming better or worse people. Not everyone changes for the better.

People who can't change are limited. Some situations and experiences require and sometimes even depend on a individual's flexibility. On the other hand, it seems peoople who can't change, at least when they know they are incapable of changing, know what they require from life and make sure to surround themselves with what is capable of change and what they know they need. And maybe they have things a little more figured out than others. Then again, not every person incapable of change needs to change. Their lives may be better off by not changing.

What you decide may not be the right answer but it will become the basis of who you keep and let go of in your life. You can either tolerate or let go of the people who can't change. You can wait on as little or as long as you want on those you believe can change.

Either way we're fucked. What happens when you're not sure if a person can change? Letting them go sucks. Waiting around to see if the person will ever find something worth changing for could suck even more.

Can people change? I'm sure I think about this way too often. What is it that I'm going to live my life by? It's funny that what I don't think about as often is which kind of person I am. Can I change? Do I need to? Am I missing out on something if I can't? Would I be worse off if I can and do change?

So... I've diluted myself into thinking I've found my answer. It doesn't really change anything and doesn't quench my desire for truth. But everyone has to decide on something. It's part of growing up. I guess.